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I have witnessed my sisters and sister-in-law’s divorces and what transpired. Needless to say, they weren’t pretty. Now I am watching my brother-in-law being tortured as he plods through a messy divorce involving his crazed wife and four children.

I have many friends that have had to make the decision to dissolve their marriages and it’s never an easy choice. But, for those of you who are considering such a move, here is some sage advice. Why not simply stick it out to the bitter end and see what results? For those still confused, I’ve created a list of signs and symptoms to recognize. Let them serve as guideposts up ahead along the arduous pathway of marriage and its consequences.

Therefore, if you encounter any of the following, you are probably not alone. Here are the obvious reasons to stay in a bad marriage.

  1. You have a child or children and don’t want them to lose the spouse’s presence and interaction, regardless of the grief they inflict upon them.
  2. You enjoy being controlled by the spouse, as they tend to dictate just about everything that happens in the household and in your life.
  3. You thrive on being mentally abused as your spouse demeans you and explains how lousy you are at: sex, earning a living, being a father, mother, etc.
  4. You are thrilled at the prospect of being slapped, beaten, and otherwise physically abused and in some cases, even have the scars to prove it.
  5. You don’t mind that you can no longer trust your spouse regarding anything they do or say.
  6. You have already decided that marriage is all about having wonderful things like a nice house and so it’s all about displaying the appearance of happiness rather than having actual real joy and fulfillment.
  7. You are a true martyr and stay married knowing you will be hurt on many different levels.
  8. You hate the idea of being single or alone again and figure that nobody else on the planet would ever want to be with someone like you. In other words, no self-esteem.
  9. You have ignored all the well-meaning advice of friends and relatives, knowing that they are probably wrong and couldn’t possibly understand what you are going through. So you will continue on to spite them and prove them wrong.
  10. You hate yourself enough to stay on your present course of self-destruction because marriage is sacred and it’s just safer this way than to consider any alternative solution.

There you have it. The bottom line is that it’s much easier to do nothing at all than to go to the trouble of hiring an attorney, filing papers, moving out and finding another place, and facing all the hassle that ensues. So the happy solution is to just ignore the constant agony of the terrible marriage and pretend it isn’t really all that bad. Denial is a wonderful thing. It can overcome a plethora of small and larger obstacles including everything I just listed. Overlooking all the problems is the least objectionable way of coping and doesn’t shake-up your little world. Of course, you might be subjecting your children to a life of pain and suffering at the hands of the abusive spouse. But, hey, what the heck? You’re still in a marriage and maybe you can try to trick your friends and relatives into believing it’s a good one, even if it isn’t.

Finally, staying in a pathetic marriage has other benefits you probably haven’t considered. There’s the lower taxes, joint ownership of property, sharing hotel room costs, wearing shiny gold wedding bands, and sharing that cool last name. Who would ever want to give up all that neat stuff, just to dump a loser spouse and make a fresh start? I think by now I’ve made my point, Please forward this article to anyone you know who would benefit from my guidance and remember that “all marriages rock”! Or is that, “beware of rocky marriages?” And that’s ultimately for you to decide.

Reference: Jeffrey Hauser

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You can make your fat belly into a flat belly quite naturally. No need of starving, no need of extreme diet control, no need of rigorous exercises and no need of slimming pills. These 7 tips will show you how.

How do you know you have a fat belly?

There are a few simple tests. Look at your belly – the area to the left or right of your belly button. Try to hold that area between your thumb and index finger. Can you hold it? You can not, if you have belly fat. The measure of a flat stomach is thickness of the two layers of flesh between your fingers should not be more than an inch.

Stand straight and hang a masons’ plumb rule, holding its line touching the middle of your chest and its bob reaching just above your feet. If the bob hangs freely without its line touching your belly, it is the indication of a flat stomach.

There is a much simpler test. When you take bath, look at yourself in the mirror. Are you happy with what you see? If you have a bulging stomach, you will definitely feel awkward and promise yourself to do something about it. But the problem is, once you get nicely dressed, you will forget about it and go back to your usual ways of bad living habits. Your dress hides most of your body defects.

How do you develop stomach bulge?

Some people believe that sleeping immediately after lunch causes bulging tummy. It is not true.

Reasons for stomach bulge:

  • Drinking water before and during food. People drink plenty of water before food to reduce the quantity of food intake. Some people drink water while eating food. In both cases, the water remains in the stomach along with food for a long time and causes stomach stretch.
  • Food rich in carbohydrates. Polished white rice, refined wheat products etc. are filled with carbohydrates and practically nothing else. Your body stores the extra carbohydrates in the form of fat.
  • Late night dinner. If you eat heavy late night dinner (10 P.M. or later) and sleep, there is no chance of burning all the calories as there is no physical activity. Most of the calories turn into fat.
  • Insufficient or no exercise. Present day automated world requires very little physical exercise in our daily work. We may just move our hands and feet. No movement for abdominal muscles. These muscles become loose and start stretching.

Fat gets stored in different places in men and women due the difference in sex hormones.  For women, fat gets stored in thighs, buttocks and hips. It is stored in the belly of men.

How do you turn your fat belly into flat belly?

  1. Drink water only when the stomach is empty. It prevents stretching of abdominal muscles. After drinking water, give a gap of half an hour before taking food. Similarly, drink water two hours after food. This has a number of other health benefits too.
  2. Remove high calorie food (refined rice, refined wheat etc., which are filled with carbohydrates) and empty calorie food (junk food) from your diet.
  3. Include plenty of vegetables and leafy greens in your diet. 75% of your food should consist of vegetables or leafy greens.
  4. No cooked food for breakfast. Eat only sprouted seeds. Include 3 or 4 varieties of seeds.
  5. No cooked food for dinner. Have two or three varieties of fruits with less calorie content. Examples: guava, pomegranate, papaya, orange, water melon.
  6. Finish your dinner between 6 P.M. and 7 P.M. No more food in solid or liquid form. If you feel hungry later, mix three spoonfuls of honey in a glass of water, squeeze half a lemon into it and drink. Honey gives instant energy.
  7. Practice Utthana padasana and Naukasana. These asanas (postures) help in reducing belly fat better than other conventional exercises.

With regular practice, these 7 tips will turn your fat belly into flat belly.

Reference:  Gowripathi

According to the American Society of Reproductive Medicine, 1/3 of infertility cases are attributable to women. 1/3 is attributable to men and the remaining 1/3 to combined infertility or unexplained causes. Find out below about how smoking can directly lead to infertility.

Introduction of infertility

Experts in reproduction and infertility consider any male or female or couple infertile if they are under the age of 34, have not used contraceptive and have tried to conceive for a period of 12 months. If the female is above the age of 35 and has not conceived after a period of 6 months of contraceptive-free intercourse or if a female is incapable of carrying a pregnancy to term, it may be termed infertility.

Causes of infertility in males

The main cause of infertility in males is low sperm count or volume. Sperm production is affected due to hormonal problems in the testicles or pituitary gland, treatment of cancer with chemotherapy or radiation and several other factors. Sometimes genetic problems also play a part. Diabetes and thyroid also cause infertility in men suffering from them. Ejaculation problems such as blocked ejaculation and retrograde ejaculation also play a pivotal role in infertility. Klinefelter syndrome or problems in chromosomes cause infertility too.

Causes of infertility in females

The fertility rate of women is affected by age. Other conditions that lead to infertility in women are pelvic inflammatory disease, ovulation difficulties, diabetes, thyroid disorders, liver problems, kidney disease, problems in the fallopian tube, uterus and cervix and endometriosis (a disorder in the female reproductive organs). Less well-known factors that can lead to infertility in women are excess weight gain or weight loss.

Environmental and lifestyle factors responsible for infertility

Certain lifestyle factors such as smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, eating disorders such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa, rigorous exercises and taking undue physical stress can lead to infertility. Environmental factors such as exposure to toxins like glues, volatile organic solvents, silicones, physical agents, chemical dusts and pesticides also contribute to infertility.

Relations between smoking and infertility

Smoking is not only dangerous for your heart and respiratory organs but also your reproductive functions. Smoking or consumption of substances that contain tobacco reduces sperm production in men and affects the quality of eggs in women, causing infertility in the course of time. Smoking also decreases the production of testosterone in men, thereby causing impotence. Smoking in women causes changes in the cervical mucous, which prevents the sperm reaching the egg and induces infertility.

Treatments that help you to quit smoking

As smoking is an addictive habit, preparation and help is advisable when looking to quit. Chantix and Zyban are 2 clinically proven treatments that help you to quit smoking. Both Chantix and Zyban are approved by the FDA, so that you can quit smoking safely and effectively.

Reference: Hayden Eck

Women want to look attractive to men, and often go to great lengths to do so, but a lot of the time they are focusing on the wrong things. Many women think that men are solely focused on having the perfect figure, long shiny hair, and a perfect face. Physical attraction IS important, but it is not the most important thing to most men. In fact, you may be surprised at where it ranks, and how many more things play into what a man is looking for in a long term relationship.

* Great Personality.

The ability to win a man over and put him at ease is one of the most important things that men look for. Remember we like to approach you, but if you give off signals that make you approachable you make our jobs a whole lot easier.

* An appreciation for humor.

Men love to be with someone they can laugh with and someone who genuinely thinks that they are funny. If you get his jokes and laugh at them it is a huge plus, and it is even better if you can make jokes about yourself.

*Authenticity.

This is the ability to be yourself. Guys don’t like women who pretend to be divas and princesses. We want women who are down to earth and who know themselves.

* Dependability.

This is simply the ability to follow through on your word. Do what you say you are going to do, so that we know we can count on you.

* Good at listening.

A lot of girls that we know only know how to talk about themselves, and while we are happy to hear what you have to say, it is important that you can listen too. Men like a woman who can thoughtfully listen and give them good feedback.

* Being independent.

Having your own skills and abilities that your man can be proud of is huge. It is important for men that there girlfriends and wives make them proud in front of family and friends and having a woman who can rely on her man, but also on herself is a huge part of that.

* Looks.

It is true that men appreciate beautiful women, but I want you to notice where looks is on this list. Looks are important to guys, but we are looking for a woman who takes care of herself more than anything else. We do want her to be lighter than us, and usually shorter than us, but she doesn’t have to be a supermodel. In fact, most guys I know prefer real women over super models any day.

Enhance your natural attractiveness and confidence (and confidence is attractive) by using perfumes with pheromones.

Reference: Matt Markle

It is a proven fact that the right breathing techniques can give you longer lasting orgasms and prolong your sexual experience. Unfortunately, the reverse is also true in most cases. If you cannot or do not manage how you breathe during sex, your arousal levels can easily spiral out of control and bring about a rapid ejaculation. So how do you breathe the right way? Here are some tips you can use tonight!

Breathing Tips For Superior Sexual Endurance

Tip #1 – Breathe Slowly: This is the most important point you need to remember when you are trying to tackle premature ejaculation. Keep your breathing slow and shallow (and breathe through the nose instead of the mouth). Any time you feel the excitement rising and your breath quickening, slow down.

Tip #2 – Take Normal Breaths: Breath synchronization works very well. But in a high excitement situation, you will have to intersperse controlled breathing with normal breaths every once in a while. This should be done at least every half a minute. Inhale deeply this time!

Tip #3 – All about Synchronized Breathing: This is a little more challenging and may be counter-intuitive at first. But once mastered, it can secure excellent results for you. Try to exhale when you are penetrating your partner and inhale as you withdraw. Practice this as a general guideline, because it is almost impossible to implement it at every stroke.

Tip #4 – The Right Pattern: Watch yourself when you are breathing. If your shoulders are moving when you breathe, you are doing it wrong. Also, watch out if your chest muscles are moving before your stomach muscles as you breathe. Remember, these coordinated movements come with practice and will not happen in a day. If you want your breathing to be effective, you simply have to practice it.

Tip #5 – Take A Breather: You need to give your body an occasional breather if you are to get it right. Every half a minute, talk a deep breath and hold it for about 4 seconds. Remember, this breath should be really deep, so that you don’t deprive yourself of oxygen at the vital moments!

Tip #6 – Distract yourself: Every once in a while, when you are holding your breath, distract your mind away from the pleasures on your penis. Focus on other pleasure areas – for instance, the waves of excitement coursing through your tummy, your shoulders or even the chest muscles. This is a great way to keep your arousal under control.

Practice these breathing tips and you can easily keep premature ejaculation under control and enjoy longer lasting orgasms. It’s as simple as taking a breath!

Here’s a bonus tip: If you seriously want to SUPERCHARGE your sexual stamina and confidence, this is a proven step-by-step system that helped me last 45 minutes longer in bed.

Reference: L. Kelvin Lester